When dark clouds come
Updated: Jan 21
Where something becomes extremely difficult and unbearable, there we also stand already quite near its transformation.– Rainer Maria Rilke
Everything passes like the clouds is a simple yet profound Buddhist teaching on the nature and reality of impermanence .
It is hard to avoid, though we will try our best when it comes to pain, physical or emotional, however there is another way of looking at discomfort.
We expect to relieve ourselves of pain, to be pain-free, to take a pain killer. But what if instead of running away, finding distraction, pushing away, numbing the pain, instead, we sit, sit with it.
Feeling down, sad for no reason, lost mojo, point and or purpose for life, feeling triggered by others and or your surroundings?
Here are some easy tools at your fingertips to help you feel these emotions through.
The key is to allow these feeling to be, they are valid feelings once recognised and acknowledged can help you to understand and accept yourself better and to help harness the emotional roller-coaster of highs and lows.
This does not mean wallow and follow yourself down the rabbit hole. Though there is a place for shamanic journeys, that's another post for another day.
Allowing these emotions to surface, to observe them and enquire, we gain an inner clarity, an insight into ourselves, of who we truly are, what we feel at core and ideally would want to feel, explore and experience instead of being swept up in a turmoil of confused erratic reactions.
See below for some tools and techniques to help yourself and how to work through these feelings.
With pen and paper start to write how you are feeling without judging or concerning for eligebility, grammar or spelling, keep writing until you have nothing more to pour out. For more on this see my indepth post on Free Write.
Find a quite comfortable place inside or out in nature, sit down, close your eyes and focus on your breath, simply breathe in and out following the inhalation and exhalation of your breath, try elongating the breathe. For a more in depth inquiry meditation see my post Sit
Also known as EFT [emotional freedom technique] is a powerful, quick, easy tool for helping your-self to get through blocks, old programming, release baggage and to clear the way for thinking and feeling better, sometimes instantly. See here my post Tap
Experiment and see if you can help yourself to help yourself & be your own therapist.
“Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” ― thich nhat hanh, Stepping into Freedom.
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